Learn from your relapses rather than seeing yourself as a failure in some way. Life is rather ordinary, it need not involve ongoing treatment - though advised. It need not involve a support group, but advised. Need not have a lot of components but it's a philosophy of self improvement.

Update from a top addiction researcher: People who quit drug abuse, smoking and other habits do best if they do it themselves.

The truth is that each of us could probably learn much more about each of the skills we use and need. The learning continues throughout old age. It isn't just spending an hour skimming a long, marginally interesting chapter; it is a life-time of learning the basics and sharpening useful skills.

You have a whole range of tools - strengths, skills, abilities and strategies - available to you which will enhance your confidence. But sometimes you may not be fully aware of them.

Fear can immobilize your decision making, prevent you from overcoming your insecurity, prevent you from being willing to become vulnerable, and to let go of old habits or ways of thinking in order to change.

Humans are motivated by many things--psychological needs, physiological drives, survival, urges, emotions, hurts, impulses, fears... and so on. All at the same time. Why don't we do what we want to do? Can we prevent unwanted behaviors, like addictions and bad habits?